​STRENGTH NEEDS SUPPORT.

Society’s requirement to be a strong man in the face of crippling circumstances has left you resentful, frustrated, and drained.

The people you care about express feeling emotionally disconnected from you, but you’re not sure what they mean.

You’re doing your best to ensure they have what they need to keep them happy, protected, and safe. Are they seriously asking for more?! You don’t have any more to give.

IDENTITY IS NOT CONTINGENT.

Men, particularly Black men, grow up believing their performance determines their identity and value.

Meaning you only get love, admiration, and respect when you meet society’s toxic definition of manhood.

I’m here to tell you that your identity is more than what you do and provide. It’s who you are, how you feel, what you believe, and what you need.

DONT’ FALL FOR A FALSE CHOICE.

The world has perpetrated fraud. Being a strong and valuable man does not mean you have to be disconnected from your needs and feelings – since that only makes you detached from yourself and your loved ones.

The reality is that you don’t have to choose between strength and sensitivity, being a provider and asking for help, or being secure and needing a soft place to fall.

You can have all that and still be the reliable, masculine man who kills it at work and is the rock for his family.

RACISM ADDS ANOTHER LAYER OF DIFFICULTY.

Layered on over toxic masculinity is the weight of racism.

There’s a ridiculous expectation that you’re supposed to be stoic, unbothered, and immune to the racism that permeates every aspect of your life.

Micro-aggressions like being followed in a store without being asked if you need help, or being repeatedly passed up for promotions by less experienced colleagues, seep into your soul and lead to anxiety and depression that harm your relationships and mental health.

THE DREADED WORD.

Brace yourself — here comes that forbidden word; “feelings.” Okay, since that’s out of the way, let’s get down to business.

Men are often accused of not being in touch with their feelings, lacking intimacy and emotional vulnerability. Given the transactional “a tooth for a tooth” mindset that society has burdened you with, it’s no wonder feelings seem like the enemy. But they’re not.

Feelings are your guide, like a coach that lets you know when you need more or less of something. The key to controlling negative feelings is to get acquainted with them so they don’t hijack your attitude and actions.

REINFORCE YOUR STRENGTH WITH THE SUPPORT YOU DESERVE.

Raise your hand if you have been taught that therapy is a place where weak people go to whine about their problems.

The truth is it takes self-awareness and strength to know you need help, feel uncomfortable about it, and still ask for it.

In therapy, you can let your guard down and not worry about being judged, neglected, or nagged. You get a feelings and relationship coach who listens and puts your needs first. Someone who will help you jump the hurdles that make life complicated and build the life and relationships you want.

We use techniques like Cognitive-Behavioral and Holistic Therapy to help you relieve the shame and sorrow that come with traumas and bad relationships you’re taught to swallow and ignore.

We rebuild your self-confidence and get rid of anger and anxiety caused by the hard-knock life.